Charlotte doesn’t suffer from lack of empathy; she is overwhelmed by it

Charlotte’s progress has been substantial in the two years since she began therapy, but I hesitate to dwell too much on it. Charlotte isn’t valuable because her tolerance for riding in a car has increased or she’s learned to initiate play with preferred peers. Charlotte has always been valuable, whether she’s melting down in the … Continue reading Charlotte doesn’t suffer from lack of empathy; she is overwhelmed by it

Sharing a common problem and common solutions

It is impossible for someone to fully understand mental Illness, emotional trauma, or addiction unless they have experienced the pain and misery that drive us to do the self-destructive and irrational things we do. Though mentally healthy people can be wonderfully supportive, and clinicians can help us find recovery, the best most beneficial fellowship we … Continue reading Sharing a common problem and common solutions

You are, in fact, worth MORE. BECAUSE of your darkness.

You are, in fact, worth MORE. BECAUSE of your darkness. Once I got into recovery from Bipolar Disorder, emotional trauma, and addictions, I learned that my dark past could help others. Sharing my experience, strength, and hope, including my dark past, helps fellow sufferers. "Cling to the thought that, in God's hands, the dark past … Continue reading You are, in fact, worth MORE. BECAUSE of your darkness.

“If you’re going through hell, keep going.”-British PM Winston Churchill

When I was experiencing untreated Bipolar Disorder in my late teens, particularly when the crippling and debilitating obsessive, repetitive self-shaming thoughts were attacking me relentlessly, "Keep going" was my mantra. It was one of the few tools I had and kept me alive. Grateful! "If you're going through hell, keep going."-British PM Winston Churchill

Don’t quit 5 minutes before the miracle happens. Don’t lose hope. Don’t stop dreaming.

Mental Illness (Bipolar Disorder), emotional trauma, and addiction were hellish nightmares that afflicted me from a very young age. Even after I was diagnosed and understood what was causing my pain, I continued to suffer until I received the tools, support network, and grace that I needed to get into recovery. Don't quit 5 minutes … Continue reading Don’t quit 5 minutes before the miracle happens. Don’t lose hope. Don’t stop dreaming.

We crawl out if that abysmal pit to recognize our value as human beings and watch the “You are not good enough” message go up in flames

Self-esteem and feelings of self-worth are particularly important to those of us with a mental illness, emotional trauma, and/or addiction. Going into recovery, most of us start from a place of self-loathing, self-hatred, and/or extremely diminished self-worth created by years of abuse, toxic relationships, and acting out. Sometimes quickly. Sometimes slowly. We crawl out if … Continue reading We crawl out if that abysmal pit to recognize our value as human beings and watch the “You are not good enough” message go up in flames

It’s a marathon. Not a sprint. Keep going!

Those of us with a mental illness, emotional trauma, or addiction quite naturally want a magic bullet that will take away our pain and make us well immediately. Years of experience have taught me that recovery is an ongoing process that is mostly incremental, with some major break-throughs along the way. It's a marathon. Not … Continue reading It’s a marathon. Not a sprint. Keep going!

Sex addiction has been classified as a mental illness for the first time with ‘treatment on the NHS’

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 EXITEDIT'S NOTE: This offers tremendous validation for all sex and porn addicts who suffer from the belief that their illness is a moral failing AND from the shame of social stigma that keeps them from seeking help. "Adding this to the WHO list is an excellent step for patients as it allows them to … Continue reading Sex addiction has been classified as a mental illness for the first time with ‘treatment on the NHS’

So, I learned to accept it and think of it as an old friend who had kept me alive when I was a vulnerable child

One of the greatest lessons I learned concerning my debilitating, torturous obsessive thinking was from the first kind and wise therapist with whom I was blessed to work. She taught me that my obsessive thinking was a maladaptive survival mechanism that I had developed to cope with severe stress, anxiety, and trauma as a child. … Continue reading So, I learned to accept it and think of it as an old friend who had kept me alive when I was a vulnerable child

If you have a mental illness and are functioning, you are a badass. And even if you are functioning on a very limited basis, you are not “weak.”

It takes tremendous strength for any of us with a mental illness to function in this world. Panic attacks, depression, mania, hallucinations, psychoses, obsessive thoughts, compulsions, and myriad other states of being are symptoms of a disease of the brain. We don't call people who are physically ill "weak" when they have tumors, heart attacks, … Continue reading If you have a mental illness and are functioning, you are a badass. And even if you are functioning on a very limited basis, you are not “weak.”