The most judgemental people are the ones least likely to have their shit together

One of the struggles that many of us with a mental illness, addiction, or emotional trauma have is hyper concern for what other people think of us. My personal experience has been that shame, maladaptive coping skills, a dearth of social skills, social anxiety, and horrific performance anxiety (spawned by my toxic family of origin … Continue reading The most judgemental people are the ones least likely to have their shit together

You see, shame thrives in darkness. When we expose it to the light it ceases to exist

It is indeed agonizing to bear an untold story. Especially if that story is one that weighs the bearer down with shame, self-loathing, and deep insecurities. I bore such a narrative for years. One that shaped and informed an inner monologue that seared my soul with unimaginable pain and psychologically hobbled me to the extent … Continue reading You see, shame thrives in darkness. When we expose it to the light it ceases to exist

Let’s work together to shrink the number of people who “become a memory in a matter of seconds”

September is National Suicide Prevention Month. All month, mental health advocates, prevention organizations, survivors, allies, and community members unite to promote suicide prevention awareness. (RESOURCES: If you are in the U.S., you can give them the number to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800.273.8255) or the Crisis Text Line (741-741). You also can show them … Continue reading Let’s work together to shrink the number of people who “become a memory in a matter of seconds”

So it is important for us to find our voices and resist becoming prey

This disturbing image probably evokes as many different interpretations as there are people who look at it. It could mean a lot of things to a lot of people. It reminds me of a friend who was just telling me that she is learning to be assertive. Many families of origin, and even society, metaphorically … Continue reading So it is important for us to find our voices and resist becoming prey

Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster

"Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster." -Friedrich Nietzsch When I was young, I was bullied, severely shamed, verbally abused, and often on the receiving end of passive aggressive cruelty. That toxic environment, coupled with my Bipolar Disorder, triggered a defensive, "chip on my shoulder" … Continue reading Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster

It’s so easy for skeptics and cynics’ to say, “If I can’t see it, it must not be real. It’s all in your head.”

One of the reasons that it is so easy for some people to dismiss or minimize mental illness is that much of the accompanying suffering occurs without causing physical signs or symptoms. It's so easy for skeptics and cynics' to say, "If I can't see it, it must not be real. It's all in your … Continue reading It’s so easy for skeptics and cynics’ to say, “If I can’t see it, it must not be real. It’s all in your head.”

We are all inherently valuable because we are human beings

One of the ways that most people make our lives unpleasant, and drive wedges between ourselves and others, is by comparing ourselves to them. It is a chronic and pernicious problem in our materialistic society in which we are assaulted by a constant barrage of messages prompting us to consume more goods and services to … Continue reading We are all inherently valuable because we are human beings

The guy in this graphic is my Brother in suffering and in Recovery

As a person who is 25 years along the path of Recovery, "fighting every day in ways that most people don't understand," really resonates with me. The guy in this graphic is my Brother in suffering and in Recovery. Though I prefer the terms "strive,"or on some days "struggle," to the term "fight," in the … Continue reading The guy in this graphic is my Brother in suffering and in Recovery

I FEEL so much more human and connected. And I am free from the prison of my mind…

Bipolar Disorder, traumatic indoctrination, and my addictions kept me imprisoned in my mind for years. And escaping has been an arduous, slow, and ongoing process. My Recovery journey started in 1993 and it wasn't until 2010 that I found the spiritual component (through AA) that has enabled me to live a relatively happy, joyous, and … Continue reading I FEEL so much more human and connected. And I am free from the prison of my mind…

Hopefully some mentally healthy skeptics will read this post and have an awakening

One disturbing aspect of the stigma and ignorance related to mental illness that persists in our society is that when those of us with a mental illness are symptomatic and suffering, we are not afforded the compassion and care that those with physical illnesses or wounds receive. A mental health crisis isn't treated as a … Continue reading Hopefully some mentally healthy skeptics will read this post and have an awakening