Love and a sense of belonging are essential needs for human beings. Without them, our spirit withers, our health fails, and we die.
Unfortunately, those of us with an addiction, mental illness, or emotional damage tend to isolate, alienate, lash out, do emotional and financial harm, shut down, live chaotically, become extremely self-centered, become controlling, and/or put our desires to self-medicate and escape above the feelings and needs of others.
A toxic stew of unlovability. That’s for certain.
Yet that is the time when we need love the most. Tough love perhaps, but love nevertheless. There is tremendous pain driving these behaviors.
My Higher Power has blessed me to be on both the receiving and giving end of this one-way transmission of love.
Yet often the unlovable eventually grow to become lovable in recovery and love you in return.
Besides, loving the unlovable is what an amazing Prophet (and a Higher Power to some) modeled and called upon us to do.